A Message from Kathy

Christmas shopping is in full swing, and many people have a hard time deciding what to get everyone on their list. They worry and spend hours searching for the perfect gift. If you are wondering what to give your boyfriend/girlfriend this year, I have some tips on finding just the right thing.

First, the seriousness and length of your relationship will help determine your gift. If you've been seeing each other for a short while and are still dating others as well, a small gift is in order. It should not be personal. If they have a hobby or a favorite sports team, something related to that would be appropriate. An item they could use at work would also be fine. But since you haven't been dating a long time, it would not be appropriate for you to buy lingere or sexy boxer shorts.

If you've been dating exclusively for a while, something more personal is in order. His favorite after shave or some lacy pajamas are okay at this point. If you do not have a sexual relationship, underwear or sleeping apparel is not suitable. Don't buy anything she could not model for you.

Couples who have been together for a long time and are planning on marriage often will buy something they can use during their time together such as a new wide-screen TV or a household item. While this is less personal, it is more practical for many. I see this quite often and I must say that I do not recommend it. Until you are married, you should keep your funds and your belongings separate. Otherwise, it's too much like being married. This can lead to one person feeling obligated to stay in the relationship because of finances even when they know it's not right.

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P.S. I have a secret Christmas present for all you loyal newsletter readers who stuck with me through computer problems and lost emails. For you and you alone, I am giving you a copy of my new book, "Relationship Remorse" in ebook format.

It's my Christmas present to you.

Please do not tell anyone else about this. This is for my newsletter subscribers only. And, if you're not reading this, you'll never know about the free gift, will you? :-) Here's what you do:

Go to my website at www.dearkathy.com on Sunday December 23, 2007 from 9:00 am to 9:00 pm ET. That is 1400GMT Sunday to 0200GMT Monday for you non-USA people. These 12 hours are the only times you can get the book for no cost.

Click on the picture of my book on the left side of the home page. Then, click on the "order" button for the ebook (not the printed book) near the bottom of the page. You'll be taken to the ebook order page. Continue with your "purchase" and fill out the information requested. DO NOT enter any credit card information. You won't need to because the ebook is my gift to you.

The order form should then take you to check out where the amount due is $0.00. One more click and you'll be finished. You will receive an email shortly with the download instructions on how to get your free ebook.

Please do not share this link with anyone else. This is just for you, my subscriber. Blessings to every one of you. May 2008 bring you the relationships you truly want and deserve.

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Kathy's New Book is Here. "Relationship Remorse: Mistakes Women Make When Shopping for a Man"

Are you single and still looking for the love of your life? The days and years roll by, and you're wondering "Will I ever find someone?" You're tired of relationships that look promising in the beginning, but end in heartbreak and misery. Sometimes you wonder if there are still any good men out there. You feel like just giving up and not trying any more. This book can help you.

I wrote this book to help single women (and men) find the long term, loving relationship they've been looking for. While not all relationships are going to last forever, my goal is to help you learn a better way of dating and choosing your relationships. By learning to be a better chooser in the beginning, you can eliminate the people who are not right for you and spend your time looking for the ones who could be right for you. Ultimately, you will find the right partner more quickly and without the heartache of going from one failed relationship to another.

This book is written for single women and men who are looking for a lasting relationship full of love and committment. You deserve to be happy, and this book can help.

Dear Kathy,
I was engaged to my now ex-fiance 6 months ago. Then she got cold feet and decided to move out. She said she needed to find herself. I really thought things would work out if I gave her some time.

She just started dating someone who is 45, she is 28. She says they are just friends, and we still talk everyday. We are starting couples counseling next week but she is telling me that she doesn't think it'll ever work out between us.

Did she already move on, and am I wasting my time? I love her so much and want to know that I did everything I could to make it work. What should I do?
Jeremy

Dear Jeremy,
Your answer lies in what you wrote yourself. She has already told you that she doesn't think it's going to work. In other words, she's already decided it's not going to work. She has agreed to go to counseling either to try to ease your pain about the split, or to try to ease her guilt.

Either way, it's probably a waste of time. She has met someone new that she wants to date, so in that sense she has already moved on. I suspect that she met this person before she got 'cold feet' and had decided she wanted to date him. That's why she called off the engagement.

As painful as it may be, it's time for you to move on. It will be easier if you stop all contact with her. As long as you talk to her every day, it's hard to get over your feelings for her.

You may want to take a break before you start dating again and spend some time doing things for yourself. She was not the right one for you. With time you'll be able to get back out there and find the one who is right for you.
Coach Kathy

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Kathy is a professional relationship coach. In addition to her formal training she has worked with hundreds of men and women. Kathy has appeared on numerous radio programs as a relationship expert. In addition, she has written more than 100 articles on various relationship topics that are important to both Singles and Couples. She and her husband Alan-also a coach- conduct live relationship seminars for both Singles and Couples aboard cruise ships and at luxury tropical resorts.

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